We will all have different reasons as to why it is so difficult to get out of a relationship with an abusive woman.
The uncertainty of her reaction once you leave her is possibly the reason that most of us will put forward.
What are you afraid of losing?
I can’t count the number of times that my ex threatened to come to my workplace and make a scene and try to embarrass me…
I can’t count the number of times that she threatened me and my family with physical violence…
Even though deep down I knew that these threats were mostly just hot air, I never wanted to take the chance that there may be something to these threats. This is what lead me to give in to whatever she wanted, which was mostly financial.
Remember that emotional abusers have a massive sense of entitlement, and the quicker you can get rid of them, the better.
They are true masters of manipulation.
How many times did I get into a discussion with her only to realize that what she was saying had absolutely nothing to do with the current discussion or situation?
Once she is done playing with your head, you may even begin to see her side of the story, which is the ultimate goal of your abuser at all times.
Use your mind, not your heart, to get out!
The major problem that I had was that I was processing these threats with my heart, and not my mind. If I had thought about them, I would have realized that the threats were being used to manipulate me into giving her whatever she wanted.
Due to my personality, I guess, I stuck it out for too long in the hope that I would be able to change the way she behaved toward me.
Once you have got rid of the uncertainty, and show that you don’t care for the abuse or threats any longer, she will eventually move onto her next victim.
This is where you will hear how selfish you have become, or how you have changed for the worse since you met.
Eventually, everything that you love about this person will become a memory as you start looking after yourself again. Once she sees that you are immune to her abuse, she will move on…
Forget about changing her; she has abused men before you, and will do so too many more long after you are out of the picture. Once she sees that you are immune to her nonsense she will move on.
I have come to the conclusion that being on my own is much better than being in an abusive relationship.
And you will too…