If you are in a relationship that you know is not good for you, you need to get out.
Ending a toxic relationship is the only thing that you can do to preserve your sanity in the long run.
The longer you stay, the worse it becomes for you.
Remember that your abuser is never going to change their behavior, no matter what you do or try.
The problem with having to be in a toxic relationship is that it is very difficult to get out of if your mindset is not correct.
Don’t think for one second that you are just going to pack up and leave; it is not that easy, believe me.
If you have been in the relationship for a protracted period of time, then there are all sorts of things that you may need to consider; children, financial and accommodation just being three.
This is why mindset is so important.
Look at the following suggestions and follow them to help you to get out of your abusive relationship.
Very, very important!
If you are in a toxic relationship it may be because you fall into the category of being “needy” or co-dependent. You need to understand your insecurities and confront them as they are contributing to the dynamics of the relationship that you are in.
If you don’t do this, you may find that in the future you will gravitate toward this type of relationship.
Why are you there?
A few questions to ask yourself as to why you are in the relationship:
- Do you feel sorry for your partner?
- Do you make all of the sacrifices in the relationship with nothing in return?
- Are you drawn to this type of relationship?
Getting a support crew
If you can get a group of people around you who genuinely care about your well-being, then you are moving in the right direction
Look for those friends who you may have alienated during your relationship, as they are probably the ones who care most about you.
Occupy your mind with something other than thinking about your broken relationship.
Think about good times outside the relationship.
Get really busy at work.
Cooling off period
Don’t rush into a new relationship.
If you are coming off a toxic relationship, you may think that you need to get into a “real” relationship to seek some form of security.
Stay single for a while; it will do wonders.