Emotional abuse is one of those things within a relationship that many of us tend to overlook.
We see verbal and physical abuse because it is normally immediate.
Emotional abuse on the hand can be very subtle and creep into the relationship over a number of years. If someone manipulates you a little each day, and you are not aware of it, or don’t want to accept that it is happening, it may be very difficult for you to get out of this relationship for a very long time.
If you feel something is wrong in your relationship, there probably is. Don’t ignore these feelings; tackle them head-on. If you don’t, the consequences can be damaging.
There are numerous emotional abuse signs to help you decide if you are in an abusive relationship; the five that I have listed should set off alarm bells almost immediately…
1. Always the victim
Your partner always blames their behavior on someone or something else. There are obviously things that happen in your life that will point you in a certain direction, but when it is used as an excuse for behavior many years down the line, then be very wary.
2. Alcohol and/or drug abuse
If your partner is a substance abuser, be very careful. They will use any means necessary to get whatever fix that they need.
3. Emotional Deficiency
If your partner cannot commit fully to your relationship, they will emotionally abuse you. This type of person can only go into very superficial relationships, no matter how much effort you put into it.
If your partner is hypersensitive, there may be cause for concern. Everything that you do or say is taken as negative criticism, and they tend to start sulking. They will say that you don’t love them and threaten to find someone who will.
Even when you point out to your partner that they may be emotionally abusing you, they don’t believe that they are doing anything wrong. In their minds, what they are doing is helping you along the right path.
If you see any of these emotional abuse signs in your relationship, speak to your partner immediately.
It may mean the difference between a loving relationship, or one that is going to cause you endless heartache in the future.