We all have a little narcissism in us, but there are those who take this to a whole different level.
Self-centeredness and self-regard are two of the best identifying characteristics to determine if you are in a relationship with a narcissist.
Narcissism in relationships is a revolving door to emotional abuse; it is so much part of your partner’s make up, that they will eventually stop noticing you for who you are; you will become nothing but supply to them.
Remember that a narcissist is incapable of maintaining a healthy relationship with anyone.
They become so absorbed in themselves that they want you to believe that they are not aware of their behavior. Don’t fall for the apologies.
You can’t change the manner in which a narcissist behaves; their behavior is inherent and they are obsessed with themselves to the exclusion of all others.
One of the easiest ways to notice if you are dealing with a narcissist is to watch how a person reacts when you are involved in a discussion with them.
They may seem to be listening to you, but you will see the look of total contempt on their faces. They don’t believe that you can have any input into anything that concerns their life, even if you are trying to point out behavior that is unacceptable.
Because narcissists have such an inflated sense of self, any concerns that you may express are taken as criticism, and one thing that they hate is criticism.
In a healthy relationship, both parties listen and take note of the “other side of the story”.
This is of no interest to a narcissist; they will either ignore your points all together, or try to turn the whole issue around to benefit themselves.
I can almost guarantee that you will recognize a few of the characteristics that I have listed below if you feel that you find yourself in an abusive relationship:
Lack of empathy
Your partner is so self-serving that they are unable to see what their behavior does to those around them.
A sense of entitlement
You are there to serve their every single need before you can even think about yourself or others.
Your partner has no regard for the needs or feeling of others.
Consequences are inconsequential
They have no interest in the consequences of anything that they do; they always feel that you need to carry the load of their actions. This falls in with their sense of entitlement.
A total disregard of rules
They are unable to view the world from the perspective of others.
Norms within a relationship mean absolutely nothing to a narcissist.
They feel that you should be thankful that they are allowing you to be with them.