There are numerous ways in which people behave that will help you determine if your partner is emotionally abusing you.
As your relationship develops, you must be wary in changes in your partner’s behavior; if you don’t, you may be opening yourself up to years of emotional abuse.
I have listed 10 examples of emotional abuse that I experienced during the course of my relationship.
My partner was incapable of telling the truth, ever.
Even when I caught her out in a lie, she always tried to justify herself with another lie.
2. Ignoring you
I gave her advice which I thought was helpful to her, but it meant nothing. She did what she wanted, even though she knew it was wrong.
4. Telling half-truths
Even though this ties up with lying, my ex never felt this way.
She never looked at omissions in her story as lying; she would always tell me that her debts were paid off, then a while later say “I never said that all my debts were settled, I just said that I had paid a debt”.
Another favorite of hers was to do or say things in the hope of getting a reaction out of me.
I once slammed my hand down on a table out of sheer frustration, and she used that saying that I had a violent streak and wanted to use it against her.
6. Treating you and others as objects
I now know that meant nothing to her except a source of supply to whatever she needed.
7. Denying responsibility for anything
Anything that ever happened to her was always the fault of someone else, even though she created the circumstances.
8. Don’t learn from mistakes
A sign of emotional immaturity, I guess, would be the inability to learn from your mistakes. She did the same things over and over, and because I accepted responsibility for the consequences, I empowered her to do as she pleased.
9. The threat of violence
Since we separated, I can’t count the number of times that she has threatened myself with physical violence if I did not pander to her whims.
I have receives literally thousands of sms’s from her, either apologizing for her behavior, or threatening me or those close to me.
I have changed my telephone number twice in the past two years, but she always manages to find out my new number from mutual acquaintances.
If you are aware of just one of these behaviors in your relationship, then you need to get your guard up. If there are more than one, get out.
These are major signs that your partner feels nothing for you, and is just using you.