There seems to be very little information out there on emotional abuse if the victim is male.
I guess that we can equate what happens to women in abusive relationships to what happens to us, but it just doesn’t seem to ring quite true.
The vast majority of websites and books are written from the female perspective, and I think that there can be only one of two reasons for this…
- Men emotionally abusing women is more prevalent, or
- men are ashamed to admit to being abused by their partners.
I was on the receiving end of such a relationship, and I walked away recently after five years of emotional hell. You won’t believe the sense of relief that has washed over my entire being as a result of leaving my partner.
I was so in love that I didn’t even realize what was going on at the time. My partner used my love for her to manipulate and mold me into what she wanted so that her every need was satisfied.
We, the male victims of emotional abuse, are reluctant to confide in friends and family that our partner is abusing us in this manner. We feel that we may be labeled as sissies if other’s find out that we have been allowing a partner to bully us.
My experience confirms that men do suffer as much as women in this type of relationship, and yes, emotionally abused men do exist.
Men are not always the villain, and we need to look at the social stereotyping of abusive relationships anew.
We can also do with hundreds of books and websites to look at issues from our perspective.
What do you think?